Just five minutes dating
"We all make mistakes." Nowhere is the cliché more apt than when it comes to relationships.As a dating coach I've been privileged to help other women recognize and break free of self-defeating patterns and habits that have kept them from realizing the relationship of their dreams.Women who share intimate details of their lives and emotions too soon come across as desperate and neurotic.Quick Fix: Recognize that the more you talk about yourself, the less you'll be listening and observing whether he is right for you.As Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo exhort the lovelorn in : "Don't waste the pretty!" Quick Fix: Know what you want - and believe you deserve it.Having trained with authors, Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, I recommend their "three days in advance" rule - e.g.he calls by Wednesday night to ask you for Saturday.
Fancy restaurants - and fancy girls - require reservations made well in advance. Quick Fix: To make sure you're his "Plan A" girl (not the "Plan B" girl he calls after his first choice turns him down), I recommend setting a firm cut-off limit after which you're "busy" - period.Again, remind us: "Men fall in love quickly - but they also fall out of love quickly." Sure, it can be flattering, even exhilharating, when a man you've just met wants to see you several times a week and talk to you for hours on the phone.But unfortunately the result is a white-hot romance that burns brightly and then fizzles out.If you want to get married but the guy you've been dating for over a year still isn't sure, set a time limit of how long you're willing to wait then stick to it.Once D-Day (decision day) arrives, and he's still waffling, then move on and do not look back (if he's ever going to know and man up to a proposal, this will be your best - and his last - chance).